To the editor: What a wake-up call!
I’m one of the serial criminals and I always ask the Asian people I meet Where they were born!! My reason is that I am interested because I traveled for business in Asia and enjoyed it so much.
My goal is to thank their country, make connections and ask if there is a place to recommend to visit on their next trip.
The fact that my question was offensive was stunning. And I will try not to re-offend.
Kendal Wolf, Encino
To the editor: After reading what people had to say about being asked “Awesome question”, I want to advance my experience.
The father is Chinese, the mother is tall and blonde, and is a mixed-race heritage of Scottish and German offspring. I’m a mystery to people and I’ve always been asked where they came from throughout my life.
When asked where I came from, he replies (with a big smile), “Where do I live, was born, grew up, or are you asking about my ethnicity?” This dullness always surprises them, and they stumble a little. So I come to help them and tell them about my heritage. I am very proud of it.
I don’t see their questions as an insult or an attempt to make me “another”, but they are one of the curiosities and often cause interesting conversations about their ancestors.
Cynthia Lamb, Hermosa Beach
To the editor: As Anglo’s senior, I can’t personally relate to the ridiculous and insensitive questions asked by non-white Americans, but I can share the real story:
Many years ago, a friend like my blonde blue-eyed classic “California girl” married her Asian-American boyfriend and gave birth to gorgeous twins. They physically looked like their parents. One day, when I was walking alone with my twins in a stroller, a stranger approached me. A stranger looked at her and asked, “Where did you get it?”
She replied, “From my womb.”
Barb Kaplan, Palm Springs
This story was originally Los Angeles Times..