Aubrey Dameron was a voice for people who hadn’t always heard. She opened the house to those in need of shelter. She stood up for the bullied people. And she forgave those who spit out words of hatred on her because of who she was.
But in March 2019, her voice was silenced.
A 25-year-old citizen of Cherokee Nation lived in the suburbs of Grove, which is part of Cherokee Nation in Oklahoma. According to his aunt Pam Smith, Aubrey returned to his family’s home last summer, where he lived with his mother, brothers and stepfathers.
Pam Smith and Aubrey’s uncle Christian Fencer were brothers of Aubrey’s mother, Jen Bird, and became family spokespersons as they gathered to find their niece.
Pam told Dateline that Aubrey’s mother had reported to police that she woke up early in the morning of March 9, 2019 and saw Aubrey leave the house. Aubrey told his family, including his brother in the living room, that he was meeting a friend.
When she went home or didn’t answer the phone to her cell, her family was worried and reported missing.
And when Pam heard that his niece was missing, he was worried because Aubrey was dependent on the drug and had left his drug and wallet behind. She added that the area is rural and the place Aubrey would have been to is not within walking distance.
Pam said she and Christians were also worried because they were afraid that Aubrey, a transgender woman in the process of transsexuals, could be a victim of hate crimes. Pam told Dateline that his niece had a hard time talking to friends and family in high school.
“There were people who mocked her and called her a transphobic slur,” Pam said. “But she remained loyal to herself, and she never wanted revenge. Instead, she would pray for them.”
Known by his loved one as “Shorty,” Aubrey returned from surgery in New Mexico in the summer before she disappeared. Pam said his niece called himself Two Spirit. I actually called her Shorty, so I’ll add a Native American term for people with a mixture of male and female spirits.
“She was looking up who she was,” Pam said. “That person was Aubrey.”
The disappearance report was filed with the Sheriff’s Office in Delaware County on March 11, but Pam said he had a hard time getting help from the authorities.
“No one seemed to care,” she said, adding that authorities felt she blamed Aubrey’s “high-risk lifestyle” for her disappearance.
Two years after Aubrey disappeared, her family found national support from an indigenous group who joined them to raise awareness of Aubrey’s case. They searched over and over again with the help of MMIWUSA.
“MMIWUSA was astounding,” Pam said. “These are really assets for families who experience this kind of thing.
On March 23, 2019, Pam said the team searched near their parents’ home and found bloody socks about 0.5 miles away. She added that the sheriff’s office submitted it to the Oklahoma State Department’s investigation, but said they had never received definitive results.
The Delaware County Sheriff’s Office confirmed that the Aubrey case was first investigated by their agency, but referred all questions to the FBI, but the FBI has not yet responded to the dateline. ..
More than two years after Aubrey’s disappearance, her family hasn’t given up looking for an answer, and looking for Aubrey.They created a Facebook page called Missing-Aubrey Dameron from Globe, Oklahoma, Dedicated to finding her.
Through social media, they received support and support from the Crossroads K9 SAR in Louisiana to help them search with specially trained dogs. However, the November 2019 search did not find anything.
“Natively missing is risky, and transgender missing is risky,” Pam said. “And Aubrey was both.”
Aubrey’s last Facebook post on February 25, 2019 shows the sign that “you are not important enough to be kind to others.”
“And that was Aubrey’s feeling,” Pam said. “She was always there to help those in need, and she was there because of their voice.”
Aubrey’s family wants to raise awareness of the Aubrey incident and others across the country.
“She was a voice for those who needed it,” Pam told Dateline. “Now we are her voice, and now it’s not time to silence.”
Aubrey is described as 5 feet 10 inches and weighs about 150 pounds. She has two tattoos. It has the Triquetra symbol on its back and the word “Shorty” on its upper left arm.
Her DNA profile can be found in the database at OSBI, the National Crime Information Center, and the National Missing Persons System.
If you have information about the Aubrey case, please call the FBI (918) 664-3300 or the Cherokee National Marshal Service (918) 207-3800.