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She is vaccinated. He is different. So what?
New York — Robust and well over six feet tall, Andre Duncan takes pride in carrying groceries for his wife Michelle and considers herself her personal bodyguard. Currently she is him. Since receiving the coronavirus vaccine in February, Michel Duncan, who has been in charge of hospital management, has insisted that he do his errands alone. When she goes shopping, unvaccinated Andre Duncan is at home. Andre Duncan, 44, said he felt guilty as well as gratitude, and that tension changed the dynamics of their marriage. “When it’s my partner, it’s my honey. She has to take risks and opportunities herself.” Sign up for the morning newsletter from The New York Times as of this week More than 145 million shots have been armed since the vaccine began rolling out in the United States in December. However, due to supply chain roars and inconsistent state-by-state eligibility rules, only 16% of Americans are fully vaccinated. As a result, countless households are now divided, one partner, spouse, parent or adult child is vaccinated and the other households are eagerly awaiting growth. Now, after spending a year overcoming unemployment, blockade, illness and fear, some families experience the long-awaited arrival of the vaccine with a combination of confusion, jealousy and guilt rather than uplifting or relief. I am. “The moment I was vaccinated, I should be very happy. I’ve overcome this nonsense,” said Lolo Sunny, 65, of elementary school. “I felt the greatest guilt in my life.” Said. A teacher living in Greenwich Village, Manhattan. Her mother, who lives abroad, is still waiting. In New York, people who do specific jobs and have specific conditions are eligible. This week we’re targeting people over the age of 30, until nurses and teachers’ partners and spouses, or anyone across previous age thresholds, can secure the coveted vaccine reservations. Takes weeks to months. Temporary normality as some newly vaccinated people have overcome unknown new concerns, such as how to coexist and care for unvaccinated relatives, roommates, and partners. I have noticed that the return to the state is at least partially pending. The Biden administration has instructed the state to release vaccination eligibility to all adults by May 1, but at the current pace, the entire population may not be vaccinated until August. .. This assumes that all supply pledges will be met and the child will eventually qualify for the vaccine. According to an analysis by the New York Times. Adding to the complexity is the fact that even if all adults in the house are vaccinated, young children are likely not to be vaccinated for some time. In New York, people over the age of 16 will qualify on April 6, but vaccine trials for infants are still in their infancy. Until then, some of the first vaccinated family members have noticed new responsible shots, such as grocery shopping, laundromat visits, and sick visits. I will. Newly published data show that the Moderna and Pfizer-BioNTech vaccines provide strong protection against infection and reduce the risk of vaccinated people transmitting the virus to others. But the data are new, and vaccinated people wonder if newly discovered freedoms, such as trips to cinemas and dinners with friends, can be brought back to virus lovers. I am. George James, a therapist at the Council for Relationships, a Philadelphia-based mental health center focused on couples and families, said: But one possible plus in the past turbulent years was that the family might be better prepared to navigate this new twist, he said. “That doesn’t mean the families aren’t at stake, overwhelmed, or at their limits,” James said. “But as a whole, I think that the power, elasticity, and ability to say,” I understand. I understand this. I can understand the following. ” Ashraya Gupta, 34, she was vaccinated for teaching high school science and her teacher was vaccinated in January. She now has the joy of planning vacations, weekends with friends, and going out at the cinema. But the life of her unvaccinated partner, Colin Kiniberg, 30, a freelance journalist who lives in Brooklyn, hasn’t changed much since the year of the blockade. Recently, Gupta spent the weekend with a friend, a school teacher who was also vaccinated. She said it was the first time she had met her friend for over a year — and one of the few times since the outbreak began with her. She said the weekend was recovering for both. “I thought,’I might be able to do more with this vaccine to get me to work,'” Gupta said. “I think this is ultimately good for him and for our relationship.” For others like Andre Duncan in Harlem, the situation created tension. He said he felt he was neglecting his husband’s duties when his wife asked not to join the grocery store. “She believes she’s protecting me. That’s right. I don’t want her to do that,” he said. “We need a lot from the relationship,” he added. Others have found themselves struggling to overcome more intense guilt. Sunny, a teacher at Greenwich Village, said some of her close relatives weren’t yet vaccinated and longed to face them safely. But what’s causing her great pain is the fact that her 89-year-old U.S. citizen’s mother was stuck in her native Iran, where she was visiting before the pandemic began, and couldn’t fire. “Contrary to all the code of ethics I’ve grown, you won’t do anything good for yourself until you first do it for your loved one,” Sunny began to cry. It was. “I thought of them first for the rest of my life. I did it before they got it, so it’s the first time I feel the worst at this older age,” she says. I did. Food delivery workers like Gustavo Ajche, 38, were vaccinated in February. For Ajche, being shot in front of his wife, Lorena de Ajche, an unqualified nanny, gives Ajche an opportunity to try the vaccine on behalf of others, proving its safety to skeptical friends and family. It was an opportunity. “I was the only one who was vaccinated at my house,” said Gustavo Azice, who was first vaccinated in February. He and his wife live in Bensonhurst, Brooklyn with some of their cousins, he said, and they carefully watched him heat up after his second shot this month. In some cases, an imbalance in vaccine status is an option. Jason Bass, 51, has so far refused vaccination because he believes scientists did not have enough time to study the long-term effects due to the accelerated development of emergencies. He said he did. Still, his wife, the nurse Dennis, was one of the first qualified cohorts in the state. She has been vaccinated for months. According to Mr. Bass, life is a little different. For example, when a couple goes to a target run, his wife goes into the store while he stays in the car, he said. However, he added that for his wife, who saw the COVID-19 damage up close at the hospital where she works, there was a major change, affecting unvaccinated families extensively. It’s stress relief. “She feels much better,” her husband said. She is currently working in a vaccination clinic. This article was originally published in The New York Times. © 2021 The New York Times Company